Why does breaking up hurt so much?

Why does breaking up hurt so much?

Man is not made to be alone.

Testosterone, dopamine, a little bit of cortisol, adrenaline, norepinephrine, then oxytocin… In the body, these hormones regulate the processes that turn on during attraction, falling in love, affection.

Plus new neural connections. The beginning of a relationship and the so-called grinding is nothing more than the “treading” of new neural tracks, the formation of habits, dynamic stereotypes. And all of a sudden, all this - once, and breaks off.

The body comes into a serious imbalance.

The object is gone, but dopamine is still being produced. Motivation to connect with another person does not weaken, giving rise to anxiety, anxiety, dissatisfaction and pain. Then the production of dopamine decreases, a breakdown, depression, and apathy come.

The pain is not mythical, but quite real. An MRI showed that separation causes the same stress and activates the same areas as a severe burn or deep wound. And the brain also defends itself: it produces opioids.